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My parents moved to Canada to offer me the promise of the Wlman American dream. But on my way to becoming a lawyer, I learned that success isn't necessarily about merit. It's also about fitting in. As a person of colour, that's a roadblock that comes up again and again.
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And as a person of colour, these are roadblocks at every step along the way. Do you fit in as a law student? Can you even go to law school in the first place? Do you get an interview? Do you choose not to apply because you don't see yourself represented?
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Because U of T's Faculty of Law is considered one of the best in the country, almost everyone in my person class got an interview with at least one firm.
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The head of the student committee tilted her head back and laughed. Ten minutes of discussion about footwear ensued, followed by an analysis of the Leafs. Another partner noticed a cappella and jazz in my extracurriculars and asked me to sing, so I launched into George Gershwin's Summertime.
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On Tuesday, after more meetings, lunches, and breaks in the safety of coffee shops, I attended two cocktail parties.
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After the usual exchanges of names, the partner began asking questions.
After listening to a detailed reply about the student's undergraduate and law school education, the partner's eyes panned to the man immediately beside me. For a while I stood there, dumbfounded by his lack of interest in me. He was clean-shaven in a well-fitting grey suit. He had white hair and blue eyes that ignored me as if I were under Bm seeks black woman for drinks laughs conversation Romulan cloaking device. We were so close I could see the small light blue diamonds on his navy tie and smell his cologne.
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